Have you been left by the one you love? Have you been waved goodbye by the person you thought was yours forever? It was very painful, right? How about when you love at the perfectly wrong time, when it is too late? Meaning, you love him and he realized that he do not love you anymore? How does it feel? If you ask me, I for one will say that I will be devastated; I will ask myself why I felt this just now, at the wrong time when it supposed to be in a perfectly right person for me. I will be hurt, of course. It would be like that, wouldn’t it? For some right things fall in a wrong place and tears fall when it is already too late.
Life in this world is very imperfect no matter how we make it perfect. Life is unfair, according to many, and it depends on us on what way we will be contented in order for us to perceive the fairness of life. Likewise, love in its nature is abided with pain. All of us may consider that love is the greatest feeling each of us has feel, it may transcend us to the other side of the earth we don’t even know existed and it may change our perspective on different things that induct us to forget, forgive and be happy but we cannot turn our back to the fact that love comes along with pain. Not all of us experienced the complete happiness when we begin to capture the magic of love. There is the love that supposed to be perfect but due to possessiveness, it will then cause pain and confusion to go on. There is the love that supposed to be idealistic but because of being too afraid to lose, it will then lead to fear. There is also love that seemed to be a true love at all but because of being too delayed to respond and too careless to keep or let me say, too late to realize, the person has already slipped away. Sadly, he may realize that his love is too lovable for him to give it to you, he may woke up in that unlucky morning thinking that you are not worthy for his love and so to say, you do not deserved it. It would be ungrateful to think of matter like that knowing that when one just grasps love, eventually, he will then catch heartbreak.
Love also sometimes leads a person to be bad. Actually, it is not just love for other people but love of oneself – too much love of oneself, which causes selfishness. The person is too weak to let go because he is too afraid to be hurt. Then, here comes now, the jealousy. As we all know, jealousy is considered as the product of the fear to be hurt, of selfishness to let go, of lack of will to trust and maybe also, of that too much love for the partner to give him to other person and thus, telling us that jealousy therefore is poisonous. When a person grows jealousy in his heart, unfortunately, he becomes bad. This other side of the coin, when we contemplate it, shows that too much love on self and worse, on the partner, will possibly lead a person to be an unrightful. After all, when love speaks, a person will go between being unrightful but happy and rightful yet lonely. At most, the first comes powerful. One statement only explains that: love is irrational.
In the odyssey of love, there are several possible conditions: loving in a wrong way and in a wrong time; loving in a perfect place, in a perfect time but unfortunately, in a wrong person; and loving wrongly at all if you perceive it on humankind’s view of being right and wrong. Perhaps, lucky are those who love rightfully on the right person, in the right place and right time. But maybe, there are only few who experienced that. Again, life is unfair. However, if I must be ask, I will answer that if one loves wrongly at all then I am sure that he is seeing it in the positive way, therefore, making it right for him. In love, there is no right and wrong as long as you love and I tell you, that is a blessing. It goes the same with loving someone who does not love you anymore – you are too late to feel it. In other words, I love him already but he doesn’t love me anymore and he loves someone else. Normally, it would be very painful, too devastating and quite understandable and it will take me a long time to accept the reality and move on. However, love sometimes means sacrifice, and bitterness is always there. Just feel the pain and always remember, relief will come how long time must take you, it will come and the right person ahead will heal you forever.
Love, may it be complicated or not, has never been a question at all since the beginning of time. Love is the greatest thing that has been given to us and the most precious treasure we ever give. It is therefore priceless in a way that it is a road between happiness and pain but paradoxically letting us feel both joy and twinge. Yes, love may cause pain but we cannot achieve true happiness without pain. We should at times understand that it is up to us, who love, on how we get grip on the handle as we ride the rollercoaster ride of love. If it meant to break, let it be – it must not a true love after all. Forget the past and move on. If it meant to fight, then fight – if things goes well at the end, it must be true love after all. If it meant to wait, then wait – love comes in a right time. We don’t need to think too much, just enough to know that when the chocolate we hold tastes bitter, just taste the bitterness. Always remember that a true chocolate is always sweet no matter how bitter its mixed cocoa ingredient is. At the end of the bitterness, there always turns out the true sweet flavor. Similar to love, when love brings too much pain, just feel the pain as long as you know that it is love. Bear in mind that true love, if it is really true, will always bring happiness at the end of the trail. As the true chocolate, true love will give its true flavor, its true meaning and its true essence since love is always be love after all.
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